It is natural to feel angry when things do not work out in your favor or being around unlikeable people. Anger can vary from mild irritation to intense fury and rage. There are many things to be angry about such as being mad at a certain person, event, or your anger can translate to anxiety. It is important to learn to control your anger not only so you can maintain your relationships but to prevent risking your health.
When you are angry, your heart rate and your blood pressure go up as well as energy hormones, adrenaline, and noradrenaline. When it seems impossible to control your anger, serious consequences can happen such as getting in a physical altercation or drive recklessly when you are on the road. If your anger continues to increase, the chances of developing a coronary heart disease will increase as well. You can also develop insomnia, headaches, and insomnia.
Other than Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to help control anger and reduce feelings of hostility, depression, and aggression, there are other methods to try at home when surrounded by loved ones to control your anger. There are relaxation techniques such as breathing deeply from your diaphragm. You can slowly repeat calming words like “relax” or “take it easy” and your mind will naturally try to do that. It also helps to visualize a relaxing experience from memory or from your imagination. Yoga and other holistic exercises can help relax your muscles.
Cognitive restructuring is all about changing the way you think by turning your negative thoughts into reasonable ones. Avoid words like “never” or “always” as those words in arguments can come off as attacking words in a heated fight like “You are never on time” or “You are always talking loud.” When there is a problem, it is important to breathe deeply, state what the problem is, and find a solution that works out well for everyone. Use logic that the world is not out to get you but bad things just tend to happen to everybody.
Heated discussions need to be handled where there are no tears or resentment by the end of the argument. It is important to slow down, listen to what the other person is saying and think why someone is saying what they are saying. Anger management is important to keep positive relationships and not let your anger get in the way.
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Page last reviewed and medically fact-checked | January 29, 2020